Disagreement Doesn’t Have to Mean Disrespect

These days, it doesn’t take long to feel overwhelmed by politics. Turn on the news, scroll through social media or read the comments on almost any political post and you’ll find anger, outrage and personal attacks. For many of us, it’s becoming harder and harder to escape.

At the same time, Colorado continues in a state of mental health crisis that has persisted, unresolved, for decades. More than one in five adults experiences a mental illness each year, and too many people, young and old, struggle with isolation, anxiety and depression reflecting the conditions and tone of our times. We must recognize the increasingly toxic nature of our public discourse and politics have real effects on our well-being.

The mainstream of all we hear said and see posted or written about the other party and its voters exaggerates unpleasantness, disagreement and feelings of actual hate for Coloradans. The truth is very few of us actively hate our fellow Coloradans when we meet one another in person. We may not like someone’s opinions or behaviors, but we don’t need to pick fights right and left and vocally curse people and their families.

Disagreement isn’t the problem. In a healthy democracy, disagreement is essential. The health and well-being of communities and nations depend on people from all walks of life, in rural, urban and suburban communities bringing their experiences, perspectives and ideas to the table. Too often we treat fellow Coloradans of different backgrounds, in different parts of the state, and with whom we disagree, not as political opponents, but as enemies to be kept out, ignored or sometimes even harmed or killed. Far too often, the function of the two-party system is no longer to work together for our common cause, but to embarrass, bully or scorn leaders and community members who disagree.

Near constant exposure to hostility and conflict contributes to stress, anxiety and emotional exhaustion. It affects how we interact with our co-workers, neighbors, friends and even our own families. It incites self-harming behavior and violence against others. It leaves many people feeling angry, hopeless or tempted to disengage altogether.

Our children are watching, too.

The example adults set matters. When political conversations become dominated by insults and contempt, young people are taught disagreement requires disrespect. At a time when bullying, cyberbullying and youth mental health challenges are already on the rise, we should all be asking ourselves whether we’re contributing to a culture that encourages mutual respect, truthfulness and good teamwork or one that rewards outrage and division.